Victoria Canham • 20 March 2025 • 4 min read
Dealing with difficult people in the workplace isn’t just frustrating—it can derail your career, impact your mental health, and even lead to legal battles or forced exits. Whether it’s a micromanaging boss, a bullying colleague, or a toxic work culture, how you handle these situations determines whether you emerge with your dignity intact or get pulled into a professional nightmare.
✳️ Micromanagement and Control: A boss who questions your every move, overrides your decisions, or never trusts you to work independently.
✳️ Bullying and Harassment: Repeated belittling, gaslighting, or exclusion.
✳️ False Allegations and Gossip: Being accused of things you didn’t do, with little opportunity to defend yourself.
✳️ Mentally Unstable Leadership: Erratic behaviour, emotional outbursts, or impulsive decision-making from someone in power.
Ignoring these problems won’t make them disappear. Instead, you need a strategy.
Difficult people (they aren’t all narcissists) thrive on emotional reactions. Keep your responses neutral and professional. Instead of reacting, respond with measured calmness—this keeps you in control.
When dealing with bullying, harassment, or false accusations, keep meticulous records:
✳️ Save emails and messages that show a pattern of inappropriate behaviour.
✳️ Take detailed notes after problematic conversations.
✳️ If necessary, keep a timeline of incidents with dates and specifics.
This evidence can be crucial if you ever need to escalate the issue formally. Formal escalations involve HR and may end up in a tribunal at ACAS (UK) or CCMA (South Africa).
✳️ If a colleague spreads rumours, don’t engage—correct misinformation professionally and move on.
✳️ If your boss micromanages, ask for clarity: “Would you prefer I check in at specific intervals, or should I continue handling this as agreed?” This shifts the burden of micromanagement back to them. Easier said than done, I know, but try to stay calm.
✳️ With a bully, disengage from personal attacks: “I’d appreciate it if we could keep this conversation focused on the work at hand.” But you do not have to tolerate bullying, escalate it, talk to the next leadership level above you (obviously not the person bullying you) or go directly to HR if the internal process allows it.
If the situation worsens, escalate strategically:
✳️ HR Involvement: Ensure your complaints are fact-based and documented. HR exists to protect the company, not you (that's why they call you a resource)—so position your concerns in a way that highlights company risk (e.g., toxic leadership causing turnover, reputational damage, or legal liability). HR don't really want you to take the company to a tribunal anymore than you want to go, so they take this stuff very seriously.
✳️ Legal Consultation: If facing false allegations or potential defamation, consult a lawyer early. A well-timed legal letter can deter baseless claims. (VERY IMPORTANT and I'm sad it needs to be said, but: ChatGPT is not qualified to write legal letters and can land you in more hot water—ask a proper lawyer)
If all else fails, leaving may be the best option. But don’t let them force you out on bad terms:
✳️ Negotiate Your Exit: If resigning, see if you can secure a settlement, extended benefits, or a non-disparagement agreement.
✳️ Control the Narrative: Ensure your departure isn’t framed as a ‘failure’—position it as a strategic move for your career growth.
Remember, in the UK (and South Africa) it is unlawful for the company to force you out through their continued poor conduct, this is constructive dismissal. A constructive dismissal occurs when an employer's conduct makes continued employment so intolerable that an employee is forced to resign, essentially being "dismissed" even though they resigned.
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Victoria is an ICF-accredited certified professional coach, who offers personalised performance coaching. With a background in change management and countless hours of professional coaching training and experience, I made the big switch to full-time coaching in 2020. I know what it is like to suddenly have the rug pulled out from under you while you're busy making other plans, as a result, I now help people like you to bounce back from adversity and major setbacks to emerge stronger and better than ever before. Our clients have transformed from feeling overwhelmed by life's challenges to confident, goal-driven individuals who navigate life's obstacles with ease. They've achieved their personal and professional objectives and embodied peak performance in all aspects of life. You too can experience this transformation. This is your moment. Your chance to take control, to choose growth over stagnation, achievement over inaction. This is your opportunity to prove to yourself that you're not defined by your challenges—you're defined by how you rise above them. Are you ready to transform your life and achieve peak performance?
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